Nor are white women trying to take anything away from black women.
A white friend of mine who was dating a black guy in school (who is now her husband) says that she was quick to experience pushback, when she would hear things such as “she's taking our good men! There are plenty of black men who exclusively date black women and in those cases, white women don't have any sort of edge.
Someone also told you guys that your kids are superior to the kids of Asian women and White men because they don’t uphold white supremacy and they’re exposed to a way healthier upbringing and they’ll have an easier time with girls blah blah blah because they’re mother doesn’t hate Asians or herself.
Whatever.“White women were often constructed as the ultimate standard of beauty and of traditional femininity, and as the property of white men; they also were endowed with traits such as egalitarianism, strength, independence, and, on the negative side, peevishness.
I've always been a "Daddy's Girl" and I would never intentionally date a specific race in an attempt to “lash out" at either of my parents.
While it's true that a woman is more likely to date and marry someone who looks similar to her father, it's also true that she'll choose a life partner who shares the same qualities as her father.
This is new territory for me, but I think it speaks volumes that I've already discovered that it comes with certain stereotypes attached.
No, we are not all just trying to see if the rumors about black men are true; there are websites for that.
So perhaps color doesn't matter in this case, as long as a woman can find someone who treats her well.
By dating a black man, we don't think that's an extension of “I have black friends, therefore I'm not racist." If we were racist, we wouldn't be dating a black guy in the first place.
This doesn't mean that white girls who date black guys think that they're above black women.
This is not to say that white privilege doesn't exist, it just means that white women don't think they can automatically get a black guy just by virtue of being white.
I had a white guy tell me that “7.5 times out of 10, a white girl that's into black guys has very deep rooted daddy issues." What evidence there is to prove this, I don't know.