Women – supposedly – won’t date a man with little or no dating experience.
In fact, the younger you are, the odds higher are that you’re actually going to have fewer partners than previous generations.
The assumption is that women (because this is almost always a hetero male issue) will date a man who can rock their worlds and a virgin has no chance of pleasing her.
And once he does, she will spread the word through the Cute Girl Network and ensure he’s blacklisted from all sexual activities in the future.
This is just as true with a lack of dating experience as it is with other areas in life. Many people who have no dating or sexual experience worry about being a bad kisser or a bad lay or not knowing how affectionate to be in public or any of a myriad insecurities and anxieties.
Having little (or no) experience has nothing to do with who you are as a person; it’s a contextless data point in your life. But No matter how many partners we’ve had or haven’t had, we all come to a new relationship not knowing the other person’s likes and dislikes.
You don’t need to explain or justify it; trying to find reasons why it’s less “shameful” than others’ just reinforces the idea that there’s something shameful about it in the first place.