He didn’t notice that his girlfriend was trying to tell him otherwise, for months. I was kind of a deer in headlights,” he told Huff Post.Magro, who has now written two books on the subject of autism and love, attributes that shock to his difficulty understanding social cues and body communication."I wanted to find people I could be free to be myself with." After researching what tools were available to help people with autism make social connections, Cantu was disappointed.Some of the dating sites she found included a description of autism, which Cantu said would be just as silly as a site like Christian Mingle outlining the definition of Christianity.Spectrum Singles members are assigned a color based on their results, which matches them to other users -- either for a romantic relationship or a friendship.The test was designed only for social matching purposes, Fitzpatrick said, noting that it is “Decoding their intentions is exhausting,” said Meranda Jacobs, an engineer from Nashville, describing the most difficult part of meeting new people.What one person with autism struggles with doesn't necessarily hold true for another.
In past relationships, partners described Fitzpatrick as "weird," "eccentric" and "intense," she recalls, which led her to be constantly anxious in social situations.Jacobs, now 33, was diagnosed with autism three years ago.The autism spectrum includes people with a vast range of abilities and disabilities."I was aware that I was 'different' and was made to feel ashamed because of it," she told The Huffington Post.Fitzpatrick was diagnosed with autism in her 30s, which she considers a turning point. Now, the 37-year-old and her husband of 14 years have the information and tools necessary to make their relationship work."Created by individuals not on the spectrum, I found that these dating sites tended to paint us in a negative light," she said.