Go to a speed dating event with a friend, try your hand at online dating or go out with someone you know through an activity group or a mutual acquaintance. Look at it as a way to have fun and meet new people, and consider it a bonus if you meet someone you're interested in dating.We look like most other families pouring out of a minivan at the mall. Life was full of sippy cups, diapers and car seats — and it was good.I shared stories of Cyndi, telling Rayna how much Cyndi would have loved her, telling the kids how proud their mother would have been.
Blending our family after Cyndi's death was a process of allowing God to put the pieces together. My wife, Rayna, emerges first, chatting with our oldest child, Grace, the social butterfly of the family. Bringing up the rear is little Maggie, sporting her ever-present I-didn't-do-it smile. In February of 2002, Cyndi died of a heart attack after a long fight with cancer. Suddenly, I was the single father of a 4-year-old Disney princess and a little boy who had just learned to walk.To an outsider, there is little to distinguish us from other families, but we are a unique puzzle that only God could have put together. We moved through life together — the meals, the playdates, the tears — every day reminded of what was missing in our family.When you feel like you're ready to start dating again, go for it.This will take time, but once you feel like your heart is open to loving again, ease back into the dating scene.For families brought together after the death of a spouse, this can be a tricky tightrope to walk.