We sat down and started talking, firstly about the dating website and how we found it. Thinking back quickly through the conversation, could my job have put her off or did I inadvertently call her fat (she wasn’t)? Needless to say, I was somewhat offended and blocked her. This time, I shall tell them I am deaf before we meet. I got some views, people started messaging me and I hit it off with a few women….fantastic! ‘Just so you aware, I am deaf, but don’t worry, I can still talk and communicate with you’. Then, after drinking about a quarter of our drinks, she suddenly went quiet and strange. "It is fine to say 'person with a disability,' but terms like 'challenged' and 'the disabled' have fallen out of favor." When in doubt about what term to use, ask.
Several AARP readers with hearing loss had similar comments: "If I tell people that I am hearing impaired, they think something is wrong with me.
‘What Dating is Like When You Have Hearing Loss’ is an article recently posted at Refinery29, a woman’s lifestyle and culture site, and it got us thinking about the remarkable challenge romance faces when it’s called to bridge the deaf-hearing divide.
It’s not an unexplored problem: A quick web search reveals there’s quite an extensive literature extant on the phenomenon.
When thinking about the language of disability, keep those principles in mind.
I am a profoundly deaf oralist and have been since birth.
I have been in various relationships with hearing people, but never a deaf person.