The statistics are that it's somewhere between 5%-30% of alcoholics that really stay sober.
When it was clear that my husband was an alcoholic, I turned for advice to an old friend who was a pillar of AA.
Hey drummerchick423, I'm still with my AH (who is in recovery now with around 70 days sober currently living in a sober living home) so I don't have any experience dating anyone in recovery...
but I am interested in what others have to say about this.
The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. After my toxic relationship with my ex, I simply COULD NOT be with another alcoholic. I was very close to committing myself to a mental hospital.
It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level."Real" Al-Anon Meeting Directory For those of you who were married to or dated alcoholics, and are/were single and dating, how do you feel about dating recovering alcoholics? There are no guarantees so I guess that's a risk/decision/choice we have to make. Out of curiosity, where did you meet this guy you are dating?
I don't think I will ever date anyone in recovery again. I'm not sure, I'm capable of it, though, if I'm rigorously honest.
There are some that attend meetings but don't work the program.Personally, my serenity is so hard-won and shaky that I don't dare risk disturbing it. But, my AF was the first one that I ever started dating that was in recovery.It's hard enough to stay serene even without alcoholism at my doorstep. I though, "finally, one that knows he is an alcoholic and admitted it." But, lo and behold, he has relapsed twice since we have been together. He'd been sober for about 5 years but relapsed his first semester of law school. I think I was addicted to the drama and chaos, because there was plenty of it. But I have to choose not to focus on that, or else it steals the joy right out of today. I liked talking to him, because we could discuss the program and all that. Prior to that ,he was sober 5 years but he relapsed when the economy went south. I am so scared that my AH will relapse because, like you, I don't ever what to go through this hell again. but I am interested in what others have to say about this.If you turn it over, the answer will become clear in time.