That sentiment is echoed by Amber Kelleher, head of Kelleher International, who adds: “What’s hard for women is you don’t know if the guy you just met is married or has a stable job. And as these women spend so much time at work, there is a lack of exposure. They go to the gym in the morning—not a great idea to date someone at the gym. ”But with more money comes more problems.“Men are intimidated by high-powered women,” says Kelleher, who has worked with Lady Victoria Hervey and Tia Carrera. Because of the nature of the city itself and working, you have a tougher skin.
If it doesn’t work out, then you have to change schedules or gyms. There’s always an edge.”And as many of the wealthy women are well known, their public persona can stymie the process.“People like Martha Stewart’s reputation precedes them,” Kelleher added.
Or even worse—as in the case of Paula Zahn’s millionaire husband, Richard Cohen, who was caught using to date and dump women after telling them they were his “soul mate”—their dating peccadilloes and seemingly bad behavior also might be chronicled by the city’s tabloids.
And if the women go out too much, it could hurt their reputation, says Amy Andersen of Linx Dating.
“There’s an immediate intimidation—but I’m like an agent.
Not to falsely sell somebody but find qualities I really love, and I touch on those qualities.
But the ladies in the top financial tiers have an even bigger problem.
Not only can they not pick up guys in bars for fear of appearing on Page Six, they can’t shop online without knowing that somehow their profile will mysteriously appear on sites like Gawker, which will mock them mercilessly.
But more often than not, those men, the elusive unicorns of the dating scene, are dating younger, not-so-powerful women. Bar Refaeli recently complained to Conan O’Brien, “Let’s put it out there.The new breed of high-end matchmakers is highly selective, running background checks not just on clients but potential dates, and they say they accept, at the most, 25 percent of potential clients, the majority of whom are women. Granted, we can’t guarantee if the guys are as good as they sound, but if these men are going to submit to a background check and a litany of questions, they must be at least interested and sincere about getting into a relationship.”Griffith adds that wealthier, high-profile clients have a harder time meeting prospective mates, as “there are challenges.Margaret Griffith, who heads the New York office of Premier Matchmaking, says, “We get a lot more inquiries from women than men” in New York. It’s not the best of ideas to date within your work circle.“It’s sexually charged and fun, but it fizzles because this woman is used to specific things, like jetting off to Hawaii.The boy toy can’t keep up financially.” (You listening, J. )Griffith adds: “The best type of match for a high-end woman is someone at the same financial strata, if not higher.’ She walked away and my client said, ‘Did you see what just happened? But while it may have worked for these three, such role reversals don’t always take.“I get divorced women saying ‘I spent 20 years supporting my husband and I can’t do that again,’” says Kelleher. “A lot of women, if they’re older, want to date younger men at first,” says Kelleher.