Maybe there'd be no need for Woo Plus, because fat individuals interested in being with someone who appreciates their fat could take to any standard dating site and not risk being told, "Sorry, you're fatter than your pictures," at an IRL meetup.But as Schools Of Equality — a site dedicated to educating students about all facets of equality — highlights, equality isn't very feasible without equity.Li told The Daily Dot, "We're just trying to provide a comfortable environment for women who happen to be a little larger." And when you go to Woo Plus' main website, the tagline, "Big girls, you’ve got more admirers than you think," will greet you. But the sentiment that Thorpe, Hayward, and Baum have all expressed with the app is one of dissatisfaction with perceived division.Not wanting divide is definitely reasonable, and it's a feeling that can also be heard through campaigns like #Drop The Plus.For me, wanting to be with someone who loves my body isn't the same thing as wanting to be with someone who loves me for my body.The term BBW is intrinsically linked to the world of fat porn and fat fetishism, but I've always believed that it's misunderstood.
We wouldn't need an "app for plus size singles and admirers to find their matches," as noted on the app's i Tunes landing page, or for "big beautiful women (BBW), big handsome men (BHM), fat admirers, chubby girl[s], Dadbod[s], curvy women, thick women, and everything in between," because the notion that fat bodies are as desirable as any other body type, in that some people find them desirable and some don't, would be understood — and not just by fat people themselves, but by all people. Refinery29's Liz Black took note of the app's "condescending ads," tweeting, "Like a plus size woman would be shocked a man thinks she's hot."Blogger Callie Thorpe of From The Corners Of The Curve told ASOS, "It feels that instead of addressing the way plus size women are treated in society — and most certainly on the dating scene — we are having to further separate them."In the same article, curve model Felicity Hayward said, "To then make a separate dating app for bigger girls is a completely backwards step.Critique around it often seems to stem from the notion that men are the only ones with "fetishes," (a word with negative connotations, but that I personally define as "preferences" or "sexuality"), and so women involved in fetishism of any kind must only be doing it for men.But perpetuating as much only removes the autonomy of the many women who feel empowered by self-describing as a BBW.So in a way, I like that the founders have said that Woo Plus is "Tinder for BBW." Everyone knows Tinder is oft utilized for hooking up and nothing more.And there's no reason that such sexual agency shouldn't be granted to fat individuals, whether they identify as BBW, BHM, or simply "plus size."In this equality-filled utopian future we so often like to imagine, maybe there'd be no need for Grindr because gay men could express their queerness openly, in all parts of the world, without concern or consequence.But rather, someone who, like me, actually believes that fat can be beautiful and sexy and fuckable.