Presence is, simply, your ability to command people’s attention.
It’s the way that you can make people focus on present.
Look, I get it: you’ve been getting Oompa Loompa jokes since forever.
You’ve been called midget, Tiny Tim, Grumpy and all the other names.
You watch women – even women who’re around pass you by to date taller men. But you know what’s unattractive on aspect of your life.
Society tends to equate height with masculinity and power; when you are lacking in one, you feel that people assume you’re lacking in the others as well. It bleeds into your body language and into the way you talk and relate to others.
OK, before you click the back button in disgust, hear me out. We inevitably find our focus divided among the million little things that occupy our attention.
Similarly, vertical patterns and stripes will help direct the eye in the ways you want.
But hey, that’s cold comfort when women are putting “six feet tall, minimum” in their dating profiles and your friends all call you “Short Round”.
The thing is, as with many other masculine insecurities, this is predominantly in our heads. Worse, I’m the shortest of all my friends who range from 5’1o” on the short side, to 6’7″ on the tall side.
Short men are screwed when it comes to dating, right?
After all: most things in your dating life can be worked on and improved upon, but the cold hard truth is that some aspects are set in stone. and there are few other aspects that cause men as much dating agita as being short.
But my height has only been as much of a problem as I’d let it be.