If you’re a nice guy who is nervous and shy around her, it’s not as attractive as being a nice guy who is confident around her.
I get so many e-mails from guys asking, and they usually come from guys who describe themselves as nice guys who lack confidence in themselves and are nervous or shy around women they like.
The truth is, women don’t like bad boys more than every other type of guy; they just go for bad boys when there aren’t any “real men” around.
Most women would rather be with a good guy who is confident, or a confident guy who is a little bit “bad” than a nervous, shy and insecure nice guy. Women are attracted to confidence in men, not nervousness and anxiety.
However, that does not mean that you cannot attract or pick up all sorts of women (i.e.
hot good girls, hot bad girls, girl next door types, etc).
In the movies and in TV sitcoms, you will see the nervous nice guy “save the day” or “rescue the girl” and then he’ll get the girl and everyone will love him and want to be his friend, before the end of the movie.
When a guy contacts me and asks why women like bad boys so much, he will usually refer to the fact that he sees “jerks” and guys who treat women badly with girls falling all over them.
What guys like this don’t know is that sexual attraction is a key factor for a woman choosing a guy and that confidence is key to sexually attracting women.
Short, fat, bald, of any racial background, no job, good job, no car, nice car and so on. He knows how to engage a woman in interesting conversation, he knows how to flirt and build sexual tension and he knows how to escalate a conversation into a kiss, a date or sex.
When a woman meets a guy who is nervous about approaching her, nervous about talking to her and nervous about escalating the conversation further, she is turned off because she feels mentally and emotionally stronger than him, which makes it difficult, if not impossible (for many women) for her to feel strong sexual attraction.
You can, but you’ve got to understand that unless you can give a woman the attraction experience she is looking for, she’s rarely going to be interested in anything other than a brief conversation or relationship.