You can look at it like you lost a son or you can look at it like you gained a daughter. If you practice the former (as you seem to be), you will probably end up losing your son; it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
His wife and his new marriage is his first priority and he is correct in taking her side.
– Emuna Dear Emuna, I am trying very hard to be a good wife and mother.
He had some serious struggles and even rebellion during his adolescence and we spent a lot of time together.
There is still no role for guilt – which frequently takes the place of genuine action.
If, as you say, you really don’t have time, then let it go.
He will never leave you and He will lift you to new possibilities and opportunities.
If you take advantage of this, your loneliness will fade and you will discover new direction and, surprisingly enough, will wind up being a better mother and mother-in-law in the process – one who is able to enjoy her adult children and take their pleasure in their navigation of their new phase of life, and one who is able to enjoy her time away from her adult children and take pleasure in her own growth – in your realization of your own true potential.
Additionally, we can’t live for or through our children.