What's the purpose of this effort, to start a little war with someone you actually like?To turn yourself into some sort of prize and see your value drop to zero once the prize is claimed? Why hasn't the study also investigated what happens next as a consequence of game playing? It seems like a poor advice but in real life it is not.In those instances, you are simply asking them to work harder for something they don't (yet) want." I went on a few dates (first one lasted 2 hours, and second time 5 hours) with a girl and we were both clearly attracted to one another.We already agreed on a third date but unfortunately neither of us could make it then.
If they are uncertain and not a little invested, however, it might be best to be more direct and engaging.
Other advice suggests we should be more direct and straightforward, improving trust and liking. I began to address this very topic in a previous article, where I reviewed research that showed playing hard to get does indeed work. Recent research has brought a bit more clarity to the question, finding that sometimes playing hard to get is a good way to build desire.
In general, being on the receiving end of someone else's aloof and uncertain signals does increase desire. On other occasions, it may backfire…What We Know Researchers Dai, Dong, and Jia (2014) investigated the question, "When does playing hard to get increase romantic attraction?
However, without any such flirting/teasing behavior, relationships turn stale, boring, and lose passion.
Having said that, not all people are "comfortable" with all types of teasing, flirting, and seducing.
In addition, for the speed-date experiment, male participants either had some initial interest and had chosen the woman (commitment) or was randomly assigned the date (no commitment).