As a child, the Urning manifests an entirely unmistakable inclination toward girls' occupations, toward the company of girls, toward playing with girls' toys, especially dolls.
How terribly lamentable to such a child that it is not the custom for boys to play with dolls, that Santa Claus will not bring him any dolls, too, and that he is forbidden to play with his sister's dolls!
The science ties sexual orientation to gender, the sense of being masculine or feminine.
Namely, gay men are shifted towards the feminine: "what's striking is the large number of traits in which gay people's minds are at least part-way shifted in gender-atypical direction" according to Simon Le Vay, a neuroscientist whose own research on sexual orientation is often invoked by the "born that way" side.
In the case of gays, the hormones make them more feminine.
Their effeminacy and sexuality are tied together and flow from the same gender-shift.
Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, the first openly gay man, argued in pamphlets starting in 1864 that " an Urning [his coinage for a gay male] is not a man, but is a type of hermaphrodite, a man-woman with the sexual orientation of a woman," a "third sex." Ulrichs used the Latin phrase anima muliebris virili corpore inclusa (the soul of a woman in the body of man) to sum up his theory: "Distinct from the feminine persuasion of our sexual drive, we Urnings have still another feminine trait in us which, so it seems to me, offers the most positive proof that nature developed the physical male germ in us, yet mentally, the feminine one." A century before Ulrichs, molly houses existed in 18th century England whose participants engaged in feminine behavior.
A contemporary witness: "they rather fancy themselves as women, imitating all the little vanities that custom has reconciled to the female sex, affecting to speak, walk, tattle, curtsy, cry, scold, and to mimic all the manner of effeminacy that ever has fallen within their several observations." Historical examples of possibly gay men include the Greek/Roman kinaidos/cinaedi and Native American berdaches.
They merely confirm what most of us have instinctively suspected and experienced.Thus, if gay men are not feminine, there is no mechanism for them having been born that way.If gays don't acknowledge that gay is on average more effeminate, then they can't insist that they are born that way. Adam's mannerisms matched his feminine interests: there was no difficulty telling which boy was more effeminate.To put another way, even pro-gay researchers have found that under controlled experiments some well-known stereotypes about effeminate gay men contain at least a "kernel of truth." While confirmation of these stereotypes goes relatively unmentioned in most of the press, this gay effeminacy is foundational to the conclusion that gay men are born that way.The prevailing theory is simple: "Differences in levels of circulating sex hormones [of the fetus] usually testosterone during one or more critical periods of development cause the brain to develop in a more-male-like or more female-like direction, and these differences influence a spectrum of gendered traits in juvenile life and adulthood, including the preference for male and female sex partners." More simply, prenatal hormones circulating in the mother's womb influence the sexual orientation of the fetus.One exception to the lack of interest in the details of what exactly gays are born with was a 60 Minutes piece in 2006 on the "Science Of Sexual Orientation." Intrepid reporter Leslie Stahl profiled two sets of identical twins to illustrate the overlap of sexual orientation and gendered traits. But why is Leslie Stahl bothering small children whose gender and interests don't conform to societal expectations?