We see lies about a slightly younger version of yourself, for instance with an old photo.For men, they tend to round up their height and lie a bit about their income.This is one of the shocking things, we've got 50 years of deception research now and the one common finding unfortunately is that if somebody is lying to you, they'll probably succeed—at least in the short term. The good news is that most of the time people are pretty darn honest, and the reason that we trust people so much is because most of the time they're worth trusting.In my view, whether you meet somebody through online dating or you meet at work you're equally likely to meet an honest person. And when you're reading someone's online profile you're trying to learn their story and the degree to which it seems consistent.Listen to his interview with Jeff Hancock is an expert on online communications, especially online dating.He says most often people lie about the little things, but there are three "deal breakers" you should never lie about.People have a hard time staying consistent over a longer interaction. To encourage thoughtful and respectful conversations, first and last names will appear with each submission to CBC/Radio-Canada's online communities (except in children and youth-oriented communities). By submitting a comment, you accept that CBC has the right to reproduce and publish that comment in whole or in part, in any manner CBC chooses.So if you have any suspicions when learning their story—those suspicions are almost always accurate. Please note that CBC does not endorse the opinions expressed in comments.
Those are three biggies that are unforgivable once you get to know somebody.
But while married people listing their status as single (or not listing a status at all) is probably among the worst lie (or omission) made on a dating app, studies show that the Twitter war over married people masquerading as singletons may have missed a bigger point: Most online daters lie about something in order to attract a partner.
More than half of online daters (54%) said dates have “seriously misrepresented” themselves in their profiles, according to a 2013 study by the nonprofit Pew Research Center’s “Internet & American Life Project.” Men will typically add one to two inches in height, while women will shave 10 pounds off their weight, says Dan Slater, author of “Love in the Time of Algorithms: What Technology Does to Meeting and Mating.” And many people readily admit to having a “Grindr” or “Tinder” age (making themselves younger, of course, not older than they are in real life.) Read: Lonely, Single People Are Being Blamed For America’s Snacking Frenzy Other studies support this thesis.
Greg Hodge, managing director of that site, attributes the difference to a more pervasive celebrity culture in the US, where certain people may feel under more pressure to live up to a physical ideal. In fact, it’s become easier to lie about your appearance since those surveys were released.
Adobe Photoshop, which once charged hundreds of dollars for its software, now charges only .99 a month for a desktop version.
The tacit knowledge that people are likely stretching the truth in their dating profiles doesn’t deter lonely hearts from looking for love online, which has almost replaced bars as the place to meet significant others.