At the same time, like folks in most other developed countries, Japanese people have been inundated with media from America and are avid travelers.They are equally interested in Europe, and other parts of Asia like Taiwan, Thailand and Korea.Japan punts itself as being a very “homogenous” country.The vast majority (upwards of 90%, I’d say) hardly have the opportunity to interact with non-Japanese unless they travel overseas.And how do you interact with a nation of shy people who always seem to have their head down and nose buried in a book/iphone game?Fear not, scratch your head in bewilderment no longer – as myself, Grace (famous for her “My Japanese Husband Thinks I’m Crazy” story) and Martin of Asian Dating Monthly have put our heads together and distilled our combined two decades of Japanese dating experience to bring you these top tips, which will help you navigate the seas of romance in Japan.However, because so few foreigners live in Japan, their best chance of meeting one in their normal lives is if they get lucky enough to have a native English (or other language) speaking teacher in junior high or high school.
As usual, exercise caution when arranging to meet strangers via the internet! ) housewives in Japan, apparently Ashley Madison is quite popular here. Men always seem to hit on foreign women at import stores. However we don’t think you need to allocate more than a few hundred yen for your dating budget 🙂Japanese tend to be very agreeable and don’t want to “rock the boat” or make people feel bad/uncomfortable.In general I’m always reluctant to recommend online dating to males (the statistical chances of success are usually terrible for males), however there’s a few Japan focused dating sites where the “interracial appeal” may balance the odds a little, and of course there’s Tinder app for some quick swipe action. “English Lessons.” Websites like Hello Sensei (etc) let you teach English by offering lessons under the table. About ⅔ of the men I “teach” English to don’t ask for a second lesson once they find out I’m married. As a result, a lot of times their communication can be unclear or vague.Two other friends started dating guys they met at English lessons. And in fact, this vagueness, or “aimai” in Japanese, is a well-studied trait in Japanese communication which is designed to be somewhat ambiguous to preserve the “wa” or harmony.How can you tell if a girl/guy likes you in a country where ‘yes’ can mean ‘no’?Or read peoples’ emotions where pretty much no-one wears their heart on their sleeve?As a guy looking to meet Japanese girls who are looking to meet foreign guys though, your best bets are what are called “International Parties” and “Language Exchanges”.“International Parties” are parties organized specifically to bring foreigners and Japanese folk together and give everyone the opportunity to meet and interact in a safer environment than clubs or bars provide, and are much more relaxed events that are usually held on Friday or Saturday evenings, with some events earlier in the afternoon.