"In that moment, I felt more lonely than ever before or since," Stossel writes.
Stossel lays much of the blame for his anxiety on his maternal bloodline: His mother's family has a history of nervous disorders, and she shares his phobia of vomiting, or emetophobia.
But seen through a psychological lens, it's a story of a man hiding a nearly deadly sleep disorder and the anxiety that stokes it.
Suddenly, for every Nervous Nellie, there's a Nervous Neil reaching out a trembling hand for support. has become a sort of spiritual guru for the isolated man with his show Louie, a magnum opus of existential angst. ) Obama is on Paxil ("Second Term Strength") in the imaginations of Since anxiety is viewed as feminine, men afflicted with it bear a double stigma: Not only do they have a mental illness, it's one that strikes at the very core of their sense of self.
Debate and research into whether Internet addiction is a cause or an effect are continuing.
This study investigates problematic Internet use among young adult university students and examines correlation between problematic Internet use and loneliness and dating anxiety.
In , writer Daniel Smith's New York Times best-selling book, recently released in paperback, he tells about how, on a romantic trip to Italy with the love of his life, he ended up telling her "I don't think I…love you anymore" after having subjected her to months of "sullen, neglectful, and blatantly discontented" behavior as his anxiety—secretly—spiraled out of control.
"In love an anxious person becomes a persecutor as well as a masochist," he writes.
He admits that, in his younger days, he himself was "attracted to women who had a skittish quality, like a deer at the edge of a forest"—but outside of Woody Allen, it's hard to think of many men who've used quavering to get dates (and one criticism leveled at Allen's films has always been that the schlemiels he portrays would never get the babes he casts opposite himself). New York therapist Mark Epstein, MD, author of , says he sees men who blot out their anxiety with a six-pack every night, but that habit disrupts sleep and relationships, causing ever more anxiety, which leads to more drinking and boorishness. I think that's a pretty typical pattern."And while women's relative ease in discussing worries is a double-edged sword—seeking support from friends can be helpful, but endless sharing can be just another way of dwelling on the negative—men are so skilled at concealing what's going on, they may think they're the only man in the world pathologically wracked by angst.