It's a retelling of the biblical story of Hosea who married a prostitute and kept forgiving her and bringing her back home despite her constant affairs.The book paints a very moving picture of what unconditional love could look like.From one high to the next, I jumped from book to book, each one helping me work through the five stages of grief.I became a self-help junkie, always looking for my next fix.The book was immediately hard to take seriously because the writing and structure was a little elementary and repetitive (but I guess dating advice has to be drilled into the receiver's head).It was a little salesy -- the writers seemed to be selling their consulting services.Getting laid off, despite all the practical "it's just business" reasoning, can demoralize you so swiftly and effectively that I wholeheartedly believed I wasn't qualified to write another published word again.Lamott's brash telling of her (many) failures and ways she got back up affirmed that 1) I was not crazy, or 2) at the least, I wasn't alone.
Skimming the table of contents alone and seeing so many "don'ts," it's easy to wonder, The fact is, not really.If you're always available or accessible, spending time with you has little value because it's something that can be acquired on demand. How do you get past the lack of authenticity that's innate in calculating your every step, like purposely waiting two hours to respond to a text message?The Rules are essentially telling women to play hard to get both at the outset of and during a relationship. But although The Rules seem unnatural, they're based on a somewhat natural principle: things that are scarce have more value -- the scarcity principle.When you're easy to get or you don't allow a pursuit at all, there's very little thrill for the would-be pursuer. But it bothers me because sometimes I just can't be bothered with it, but mostly because it creates an artificial scarcity, which begs the question: How can you build something real with someone if it's based on something fake?This story might be one to add to the realm of urban legend: a friend of a friend was a little down on her luck with love and money.