On some sites, the person also knows that you deleted it.
Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. And for the record, the inappropriate actions are Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.
The site will then begin to monitor all your e-mail messages and kick you off the system if it doesn’t like what you’re writing.” Afterward, break off the communication.
From then on, your approach is no reply, no comment, no nothing. If you think you have a problem prospect, even if you’re anonymous, don’t feel uncomfortable reporting the situation to the site operator (usually under abuse or Webmaster).
Reporting abuse to the site is far more effective than just blocking a person’s messages (a feature offered on most sites).
However, if you’re a drama king or queen, don’t practice your art of “the sky is falling.” If you fabricate e-mails and try to damage someone’s reputation, you’ll run foul of several civil and criminal laws — maybe even antiterrorism federal law.
The appropriate actions to take include Occasionally, you’ll run into people who just won’t stop contacting you even after you’ve rejected them.
Just as dogs get only one bite (actually, they don’t get any free bites), your discouraged suitor gets only one “apology” from you. The following line is pretty darn effective but only use it as a last resort:“You need to know that if you attempt to contact me again, I’ll report your activities as an abuse to the dating site.
Note that at Match.com, you need to turn your invisible status on each time you log in.
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Granted, for some people, a more heavy-handed approach is necessary. Polite is good, but if it doesn’t work, try sterner and firmer. If you need further coaching, go to your local electric company’s customer service department and see how it handles you when you try to dispute a bill by saying, “I never used that electricity.” Many appropriate ways are available to encourage someone to move along. This article points out the major ways to do so in specific situations.
Say that you get an e-mail from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person.
The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander.