A few months ago, as I sat alone in a three-bedroom apartment in Cantù, Italy, a small town outside of Milan, I scrolled through my Instagram requests. A young girl, who looked about 14 years old, requested to follow me.I often get requests from teenage girls because, let's be honest, those are the only people who still watch reruns on MTV and come across the almost decade old episode featuring my 16th birthday party.Allison is the founder of Live Life Well, a lifestyle brand created to inspire women to be well dressed, well educated, and well traveled.Follow her journey on Instagram and Facebook, check out her Live Life Well branded apparel line, utilize her travel itinerary planning service to plan your next trip, or join the Live Life Well movement by subscribing today.Our lifestyle has inspired me to create my blog, establish a travel itinerary planning service, launch a t-shirt line, and do so many other things that I never thought I would.But, I also recognize that I've sacrificed a lot for my husband's career and realize that the reason that I'm OK with those sacrifices is because I married for love and I get to spend my life with a man that I know is my soul mate.Usually, I approve as long as the page doesn't look creepy and go about my business, but as I read the young lady's bio, I stopped.It read: this school, that city, emoji, emoji, whoever's bestie, "future basketball wifey." When I read the last three words months ago, I couldn't help but wonder who in their right mind would purposely seek out this lifestyle and as I think about it now, I wonder the same thing.
I hope teenage girls everywhere aim higher than becoming the future wives of professional athletes.
When you're married to a professional athlete, the sport literally impacts every single aspect of your lives.
For example, as newlyweds, my husband and I often discuss having children. To ensure that I delivered during the off-season so that he could be there to witness the birth of his first child, we would have to plan conception to the tee.
I'll pass.” Aside from the presumptions that society holds on women who date athletes, claiming that they are chasing fulfillment in the form of money, cars and clothes, I beg to present a case for the contrary.
In fact, it doesn't matter what stage of an athlete, the brevity of the fling, or even the sport; just date one -- if only once, and pay attention!
I would love to say that loneliness and isolation only come with being married to an athlete that plays abroad and that life would be easier if he played in America, but having also experienced that, I can honestly say that while it is different, it comes with a unique set of challenges.