When you're married to a professional athlete, the sport literally impacts every single aspect of your lives.
For example, as newlyweds, my husband and I often discuss having children. To ensure that I delivered during the off-season so that he could be there to witness the birth of his first child, we would have to plan conception to the tee.
I was also alone when he simply didn't feel like talking because he was stressed about his limited playing time or about a bad game.
Even when people surrounded me, I was alone because of the language barrier.
This season, we are living in Chiba, Japan, and the situation is exactly the same.
Without friends or family here, I've gotten to know myself better than I ever thought possible and watched more TV series from start to finish than a normal person would watch in a year.
I hope teenage girls everywhere aim higher than becoming the future wives of professional athletes.
On top of that, because he plans to play for at least another 10 years, he would miss a great deal of his child's life with his constant traveling.
Plus, if he were still playing overseas when our child reached school age, we would have to determine whether or not to enroll our little one in an international school abroad or spend months at a time separated so that I could remain at home and he or she could attend school in the states while my husband spent the basketball season alone in another country.
I would love to say that loneliness and isolation only come with being married to an athlete that plays abroad and that life would be easier if he played in America, but having also experienced that, I can honestly say that while it is different, it comes with a unique set of challenges.
My husband played in the NBA and the NBA D-League, and both come with their own stressors such as groupies, call ups (or lack thereof), trade deadlines, cuts and, again, being forced to spend a great deal of time alone because your mate is either traveling, training or mentally and physically exhausted.
Are the few advantages really worth all the sacrifices?