In addition, it can be hard to find the “real” person behind the public face presented in front of the entire family.No one is the same in a group setting as he or she is one-on-one.Finally, care must be taken to avoid the pitfall of believing one’s personal preference—dating or courting—is the “only way” and looking down upon those who make the opposite choice.
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.
The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).
As stated before, during this time there should be little or no physical contact, as this is something that should wait until marriage (1 Corinthians -20).
Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage.
If they find this hard to do, they must take steps to ensure that Christ will always be honored during their time together and that sin is never given a chance to take hold of their relationship.