You see, dating is like an investment in your penis, and just as a smart investor would get out of a poorly performing investment position, a smart guy will get out of a poorly performing dating situation."Guy 2:"a) Not that into you.Are you sure both parties thought it was a great date? But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.In fact, nearly 60 percent say they make better decisions about compatibility now compared to when they were younger.Some 42 percent have better quality dates, and 52 percent say part of the allure of dating in the 50s is the absence of the tick-tock of the biological clock. Be the master of the segue if he talks too much, or the conversation swerves into uncomfortable topics. Show up to your dates open, happy and being your already charming self.
It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. I have compiled a list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts exclusively for women like you. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story.1. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. But every day I coach women like you through situations they wish they didn't get into. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date. I get the opportunity to change people's lives for the better.As a matchmaker, my strength lies in my ability to tune into the authenticity of my clients and find the best matches that complement them.It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? Steer clear of these topics until you know each other better. Your 25-year-old may want to linger and go down the rabbit hole trying to figure it all out. Unless you can talk with your dude about safe sex and the status of your relationship after intimacy, steer clear of the sack. This keeps you open to someone who might not be your type. Keep your body language open, play with your hair, smile, touch his arm. It’s so important to me that my clients know they can always count on me to have their best interests at heart!