Desiree agrees, noting the same rules apply to both moms and dads.
“As long as he is thoughtful of his children, takes time to introduce a new person and makes time to talk openly about how his children are feeling, then he will be able to work through it, painful as that could be at times.” One young client recently told her, “It would be OK if my dad dated.
I always tell my kids that they come first, but that doesn’t mean that their demands will trump my personal life. When you’re dating without kids, you only have to worry about liking each other.
Part of that change was being plunged into the dating world, a world he’d long since forgotten how to navigate. “I know I’m not looking for a new mother for my children,” says the Toronto teacher.
“But I would like to find someone who could be with all of us together.
I just want him to be happy.” Fiona Gulliver (a pseudonym) waited for two years after her husband left before entertaining the thought of connecting with another man. She has speed-dated, joined organized dating clubs and visited any number of online dating sites.
It was both for the sake of decorum and so as not to further disrupt the lives of her kids, then only 10 and five. At first she restricted dating to nights when the children were visiting their dad.
Either way, I knew I would know when they were ready to meet her.” Frank was right.